Marriage Counseling

Only You

“You’re the only cure to my sadness – even though you’re the one who
caused it.”

You were so close – the source of each other’s energy, inspiration, and joy. But it isn’t the same anymore. How can such a great relationship cause so
much pain?

Two personalities emerge in the midst of marital conflict: which one are you?

A pursuer?

Unloved, unappreciated, and lonely, you pursue your spouse.

Sometimes, you yell – and then scream even louder.

You’d do anything for your spouse to listen to you.

You need to know: does he/she love me? Will he be there for me?

Or a withdrawer?

Feeling like a failure, attacked and defensive, you shut down and withdraw.

Negative thoughts crowd your mind: “I can’t do this right. I don’t know how I feel.”

Unanswered questions plague you: “Why can’t we just be at peace? Can I trust my heart with you?”

You withdraw and suffer alone with so much disconnect.

Marriage is hard!

People who say they never have problems or arguments are lying. All marriages struggle at some point or another.

But you didn’t know this – or at least you didn’t believe it could happen to your marriage.

Maybe someone told you about it before you got married – but you two were so in love that you thought to yourself, “Not us.” Or “He/she will change; when we have kids, things will be better.”

But the months and years passed, the kids came, and the struggles continued – and became even worse.

And more than once, in all these years, you’ve asked yourself, “Is he/she the right person? Did I make a mistake?”

What are you going to do?

Yes, more than once, you’ve contemplated a separation or divorce – even now.

The thought of separation – as brutal as it sounds – seems better than the agony of not feeling loved and appreciated, of not having peace in your marriage.

And you’ve even brought it up to your spouse as a last resort.

Now, at the end of your rope, as desperate as you feel, you’re here. But you still wonder – can therapy even help?

Let me tell you: Absolutely, YES!

A broken heart is also an open heart.

When I see couples, I see open hearts bleeding – the pain of not feeling loved and noticed is unbearable.

And my couples openly show their pain and suffering because their hearts are broken. The pain is so real that I can even feel it in sessions – as if I am peering directly into their open hearts.

Often, they’re experiencing significant resentment and bitterness.

Some tell me they’ve reached the end: “If this doesn’t work, we will end up divorced.”

And there’s a glimmer of hope.

The truth is – nobody wants a divorce – for various reasons.

But think about it. What would be better?

Trying to numb the constant bleeding and pain from infection with mere painkillers – or a definite amputation, so you don’t feel that pain anymore?

I propose a third solution.

Let me help.

Let me show you how to work with your spouse to recreate your marriage the way you intended it to be.

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“I want only two things in this world: I want you. And I want us.”

Of course, you do! Who doesn’t?

So, it’s time to be gut-level honest with yourself. What are you willing to do to achieve the marriage of your dreams?

What sacrifices are you willing to take to rediscover the love, peace, and joy in your marriage?

A Closer Look

When we do couples work, we’ll take a closer look at your relationship and how you impact each other.

We’ll be open and delve inside your hearts, figure out where you need healing, and apply our special ointment comprised of understanding, validation, empathy, and encouragement to start the healing process.

I’ll help you discover and nurture the courage to be open with your spouse to build the trust you need to risk sharing your heart.

Together, the two of you will find healing from your past hurts and offenses. And, as you heal, you’ll free yourselves of resentment and bitterness so that we can work toward forgiveness, reconciliation, intimacy, and joy.

A Stronger Bond

As you transform the marriage of your dreams into reality, you’ll feel connected, understood, extremely close, and intimate with each other.

Once more able to share anything, you’ll be drawn to each other and desire more quality time together.

You’ll make love passionately, achieving perhaps more fulfillment than you’ve ever felt before.

More of your days will be filled with joyful and fun interactions, feeling genuinely grateful and appreciative of each other.

Because you have each other –

Your heightened connection will give you the strength to face whatever comes and conquer the world – together.

Let me help you get to this type of marriage, in which all you see and seek is each other. An affair-proof relationship that fulfills your needs and allows you both to feel loved and connected. A haven where you find love, joy, and peace at last.

Reach out today: (651) 815-2124.